Sometimes it’s depressing hanging out with people still in their 20s.
In fact, I try not to make a habit of it.
But there are a few twenty somethings — like my pal, Hisae (above) — who are undeniably fun to be around, age notwithstanding.
Of course, until she asks me this question:
“Is there anything I should do before turning 30?”
I have to admit, that made me cringe a little.
I haven’t been 30 for almost a decade now. I can barely remember what I did then — this would be in 2005 — and I’m sure I didn’t have a list of things I wanted to accomplish before transitioning into a new age bracket.
But it was worth a ponder.
Looking back, I did a lot by the time I was 30. I was working full-time as a reporter at the now-defunct Honolulu Advertiser, I was teaching college journalism part-time, I had been traveling a lot with my girlfriends. Life was good.
But I didn’t accomplish a few items on my “Life List” that I figured would easily get checked off by the time I was 30. Things like getting married, having kids, owning a home. I was single, I was renting, I was happy. Suddenly, the things I thought were so important back in college weren’t relevant at all.
I didn’t expect to be 38, divorced and still renting. But I have no complaints about where life has taken me. I’ve been around the world, I’ve met incredible people, and I’ve got two dogs that keep it interesting.
Turning 30 wasn’t that momentous, at least not that I can remember. (Though I did have the stomach flu on my birthday and I vividly remember puking cheesecake, but that’s beside the point.) I think it was everything I did in my 30s that mattered most.
So here’s what I think: my friend, who’s living out her last years of her 20s, should do whatever she wants in her last year before turning 30. Don’t try to justify anything, don’t flat out reject anything, keep an open mind and just go for it.
Anyone else got some advice for Hisae? Anything she should accomplish by her birthday?