Great Debate: Who’s got it harder, men or women

By September 6, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

Initially, I blogged about feeling overwhelmed. But I’ve decided to change directions with this post and turn it into a Great Debate. Read on.

I feel overwhelmed, like, all the time.

I work full time, take care of two dogs, volunteer for a couple of nonprofits and fit freelance into whatever remaining hours I have.

And I’m not even the busiest of my friends!

I have girlfriends who do everything I do — plus raise kids, take care of their parents, run marathons and somehow manage to keep their hair and nails looking great.

It occurred to me that there’s this pressure on women to do it all, to be Super Woman, to be the perfect mother and wife and employee and friend. We have to be at meetings on time, prepared with PowerPoints and perfectly edited reports. We have to plan the office birthday parties and throw baby showers for our coworkers. We have to plan potlucks for our kids, pay the bills on time, shop for groceries, wash the clothes and, on top of that, maintain (or fake it) the 25-year-old figure we haven’t seen in 10 years.

Is this fair?

I thought about this the other night when I caught a glimpse at the trailer for the new movie, “I Don’t Know How She Does It,” starring Sarah Jessica Parker.

The movie is based on Allison Pearson’s bestseller by the same name, in which Parker plays a high-achieving Manhattan woman who’s juggling everything from her career — she’s the breadwinner — to faking a store-bought mince pie to look homemade.
Here’s the movie trailer

We all know women like that. The coworker who seems to meet all her deadlines — early — and still have time to chair several committees, coach her daughter’s soccer team and bake a mean bread pudding. Or the friend who can juggle motherhood, two jobs and finish law school — and still keep her body fat percentage in single digits.

We may not like these people — on the grounds of pure envy, of course — but we strive to be like them.

I wonder: do men feel this same pressure? Do men feel this need to be the perfect dad, husband, brother, coworker, friend? Are men programmed the way women are, to feel this urge to do it all?

What do you think?

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Weekend Dish: Deep-fried PB&J

By September 5, 2011 Food, Weekend Dish

The other day I had the most amazing breakfast — made by the head chef at Rainbow Drive-In, no less.

And no, it didn’t involve two scoops of rice and mac salad.

He served us peanut butter and jelly sandwiches — on white bread, this is key — dunked in pancake batter, deep-fried, then doused in sugar.

Oh, I can’t tell you how good it was.

So my mom and I — with the help of my dad, who manned the sugar — tried to recreate this breakfast sensation. In the process, I think we improved on it, changing up the fillings and realizing there’s so much more we can do with this recipe.

Here’s what we did:

Pancake batter

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We used a batter for instant malassadas (see below) to coat the sandwiches. It was easy enough and the batter, when fried, really puffed up.

Used to make instant malassadas


1 1/2 cups Bisquick
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 Tablespoon sugar
1 egg
3/4 cup milk


Mix. Coat pieces of white bread — filled or not — with batter and place into deep fryer.

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Today’s happy shot

By September 4, 2011 Happy Shots, The Dog Dish

Indy is on a mission.


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Postcards: Running around Madison

By September 4, 2011 Postcards

Madison is quite the picturesque college town. Derek’s been exploring his neighborhood near Glen Oak Hills Park. Here’s what it looks like — for now. Wait until winter.

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Scenes from this weekend’s Okinawan Festival

By September 3, 2011 #CatTravels, Food

OK, I’m not Okinawan.

But whenever I go to the annual Okinawan Festival at Kapiolani Park, I feel the uchinanchu spirit come over me.’

And it’s usually at the food booths.

Okinawans know how to eat. And this year’s offerings proved it, with a lineup that included shoyu pork, yakisoba, sōki soba (ソーキそば) and, of course, andagi. More than 100,000 of them.

This year, though, there were a couple of new items: taco rice — a popular Okinawan dish that combines rice with taco-seasoned beef, shredded lettuce, cheese and salsa — and fundagi — a combination of andagi with funnel cakes.

There’s so much to do — and eat — it’s no wonder the festival is held over two days.

Here’s what the first day of this year’s festival looked like:

Welcome to the Okinawan Festival

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What started as a one-day cultural event at McCoy Pavilion at Ala Moana Beach Park has become a two-day festival that attracts more than 50,000 people and involves more than 2,000 volunteers at Waikiki's largest park.

The 29th annual Okinawan Festival will run from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. today at Kapiolani Park.

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